Dear Ladies, the Fairest of All to See…

Dear Ladies, you’re simply my cup of tea… yes my dear, I know it’s a really strange start to my little ramblings today, but with everything that has been going on in this part of the world, I wanted to bring myself back to earth.

I know that you probably don’t recognise the words at the beginning of today’s post, but they take me back to an era when the pace of life was much slower and a little village in the south of the UK called Stackton Tressel was the home of two elderly spinsters.  These charming, though eccentric, women could be heard on the radio quite regularly, and they even had their own series on the BBC which showed them, their home and daily life.  Dr Evadne Hinge and Dame Hilda Bracket also performed on stage to packed audiences.  They sang songs from Gilbert and Sullivan, pieces by Ivor Novello and even songs from some musicals.

These ladies lived in a wonderful make-believe world which they created for their fans and even now, when I think of their personas and their songs they make me smile.  Due to the wonders of YouTube it is possible to find some of their most popular stage appearances – Buxton Opera House seemed to have been one of their favourite venues.

No, my dear I haven’t totally lost the plot.  I just wish that for a short time we could all live the idyllic lifestyle portrayed by Hinge and Bracket.  Everything in their world was perfect – but life isn’t like that.  It was a wonderful piece of escapism and we, the viewer, or listener were transported into their magical paradise. 

In some respects Mrs. M reminds me of Dame Hilda Bracket.  Unfortunately Mrs. M can’t sing, but the way she flutters around, making sure that everything is “just so” is lovely to see.  It is a world of afternoon and high tea, and cocoa with biscuits at bedtime.  Mrs. M came to see me earlier today – I hadn’t been expecting her, but she is always welcome here at any time.

Mrs. M hasn’t taken the deaths of her neighbours very well.  If they had passed away of natural causes that would have still upset her, but she would have understood and accepted it as being one of those unfortunate events that will come to us all at some time in the future – but hopefully not too soon. 

I’m not sure why I’m reminiscing about programmes which were shown forty years ago, but I think the harsh realities of what has been going on around us here has been too much for many of us.  I had a little chat with Mrs. M and she agreed that we need taking out of ourselves.  I’m not proposing anything too extravagant and over the top, just something to acknowledge that we’re still here. We understand that many of the crimes which have happened really shouldn’t have been perpetrated in a small retirement community but they did.  We’re just going to have to live with it and get on with living the rest of our lives.

I think we need to have a buffet and a party.  We are heading towards the festive season so that is a good reason anyway.  However, I propose that we have outside caterers and waiting staff to help with replenishing plates and glasses etc.  This needs to be something to cheer us up.  There have been too many negative events recently and a line needs to be drawn.   I’m quite happy to help to organise it, and I’m going to suggest that Head Office put their hands in their pockets and pay for it. 

Mrs. M was thrilled and clapped her hands together like a small child.  She decided that she would make the posters so everyone knows about it well ahead of the proposed date, and she will visit some of the local shops and businesses to ask for their support in the form of raffle prizes.

After we had chatted for a little while, I told Mrs. M that she must keep this to herself for the time being as I want to speak with Head Office first.  I feel that they should pay for this as the residents haven’t had any support from them for weeks.  I’m sure I can persuade them that it would be good publicity, which is what they need if they want to find new tenants for the growing number of flats which are standing empty.  I think I will be able to get a feature in the local paper after the event showing the residents enjoying themselves.  If Head Office have an advertisement on the same page giving details of the flats which are available that could work out quite well for them.

Well my dear, I know I’ve wandered from one topic to another, but it’s just how my mind is at the moment.  I hope you will indulge me for once.  As Always –

With Love – Jan  xx 

Published by Jan

I'm retired, disabled and after sudden death of wonderful husband, have moved closer to my son, daughter-in-law and baby, Charlie. I live in sheltered housing at the bottom end of the scale called Independent Living. I had been in an online Knit and Natter group for a couple of years before Ian died and the members of the group were and still are a wonderful support to me. Since moving here I have now got my own little Facebook group where the members are now my friends and extended family. It was suggested that I write a blog - so here we are!!

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  1. A buffet does sound like a good idea, but do you think that maybe leave announcing it until all the enquires have been done and funerals have taken place. It will give you time to negotiate with head office to pay for it, and let the residents time to settle down a bit. I’m sure you too need a bit of time to process all that’s happened, it’s been a traumatic time for you too. So perhaps you should relax a bit too. X


    1. Frances – I’m sure that you’re right. I don’t want to rush into anything just at the moment. I hope that within about a month the funerals will have taken place. and everyone will have calmed down. xx


  2. I think head office should be delighted to foot the bill for a buffet gathering. They could certainly do with some positive publicity after all the recent events!


  3. Ooh, my Mum and my Aunty Glenda used to do a fabulous “Hinge and Bracket” act at Christmas and my Dad always used to remark that they were far less lady-like than the real thing! At the time I didn’t know why that was so funny but I do now 🤣 The buffet sounds like a good idea. Perhaps the winners / close runners up of the talent contests could be persuaded to provide a bit of entertainment?


    1. Hazel – it’s funny how these things pass over us! Thank you for your suggestion about the winners and runners-up providing the entertainment. That’s a really good idea, which I just hadn’t considered. I shall add that to my list – did you know that I’m famous for my lists! xx

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  4. Certainly a different type of blog Jan, but good to read nevertheless. I think the idea of a buffet a good idea once things calm down and head office should be approached for a financial contribution to this. At the same time they could reimburse you for your out of pocket expenses for the talent contest.
    Hinge and Bracket – my that’s going back a few years. Give yourself a couple of weeks off now Jan whilst things calm down.


    1. Thank you Maggie – I certainly won’t approach Head Office just at the moment. I hope that they start to put security cameras around the corridors very soon. That will be quite a large expense for them. If I leave it for about three weeks before asking them, things may have settled down a little. At that time they may feel that it would be a good idea to generate some positive publicity. xx


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